In response to Jennifer Roback Morse’s remarks to the Minnesota house I have asked them the following questions. I post a screen shot of them here since NOM and the Ruth Institute are generally not interested in open civil debate. I don’t expect them to provide any answers to them.
Gay and Lesbian people exist. We always have and always will. Regardless of what NOM, the Ruth Institute, or any of the other discriminatory organizations that continue to turn our own government against us hope to achieve. Sometimes I truly wonder what their goal really is. Is it to try and somehow cure us and eliminate us? I don’t think that there really is a clear answer to that question and frankly if that is the goal, it’s a fool’s goal because it can never be achieved. More Gay and Lesbian Americans are born everyday. Trying to rid America of us makes about as much sense as trying to get rid of everyone with red hair.
So if we aren’t going away what sort of protections do we deserve if not marriage? The reality of the mater is that we do fall in love. We do have children. We do build lives and families together. We buy homes together. We go on vacations together. We worry about paying the bills together just like any other family. Is it right that when one of us dies we have no say over burial or that we have to pay gift taxes on the things we bought together as a couple? If one of us becomes sick do we not have a right to visit our partner? Should we not have any rights to the children we may have spent years raising together simply because the state won’t allow us to adopt our partner’s biological child?
These are questions that can’t be answered by a simple contract other than that of civil marriage. Contracts other than marriage can be and often are challenged in court by family members that may not approve of the same sex relationship.
Without marriage are we just supposed to live a life without love, in solitude, and unhappiness? If you deny us marriage, then what will you allow?
Meanwhile, the Iowa State Judicial committee voted 13-8 yesterday to move the bill banning Marriage Equality out of committee and to the full State House. It is expected that this bill adding discrimination to our state constitution, will pass the House. Its chances in the State Senate are not nearly as certain. If it passes both the House and the Senate this year, it will have to do so again in Jan 2013. After which it will go to be voted on by the people in November 2013. If it fails to pass then the soonest it could be put on the ballot is 2016.
Today is National Coming Out Day.
Issac Katz wrote an essay that was published at stltoday, publicly coming out as gay. Issac is the son of proud homophobe Jonathan Katz, author of the 1999 essay ?In Defense of Homophobia?, and who was briefly a member of Obama?s science team working on the BP oil spill in the gulf. He was removed from the team after his homophobic views brought to attention.
It is harder to stay away from homosexuals, I would imagine, when your son is one. When I told my dad I was gay, his immediate response was, "No, you’re not." (My mom, by the way, was and is more supportive.) When my insistence finally overrode his denials, he echoed his online essay that I should deny who I am rather than to engage in an act so abhorrent as to love another man.
The whole essay by Issac is definitely worth the time to read.
Actor Chad Allen?s coming out story is a great read.