Open to Serve

August 26th, 2011

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The end of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell is quickly approaching. On September 20th the repeal and certification process officially is complete and the sexuality that a person is born will no longer be grounds for discharge. As we approach this historic day that marks the end of seventeen years of institutionalized discrimination former and active duty service members are telling their stories of how they made it through and what it was like to endure.

GQ magazine has collected some of these stories and presents them here.

Like the story of Eric Alva, the first American injured in Operation Iraqi Freedom.

When Alva signed up, before "Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell," he had to lie on his paperwork. "I knew I was lying," he says. "But I loved what I did, I loved my job, and I didn’t want to tell anyone. I said, ‘It’s going to be my secret.’ I knew I was not going to be happy in a way, but I knew this was what I wanted." In 2003 he was deployed to the Middle East, and on March 21 he crossed the border from Kuwait. His unit was part of a huge convoy that stopped outside Basra. Alva got out of his Humvee and went to fetch something from the back of the vehicle. "That’s when I triggered the IED. I was awake, my hearing was sort of gone. My hand was covered in blood and part of my index finger was gone. The chaplain was holding my head and I was telling him I didn’t want to die. I was taken off a helicopter in Kuwait—it was estimated that I was only in Iraq about three hours—and carried into surgery. I woke up later and when I looked down I saw that the right side of my sheet was flat. I cried myself asleep, only to wake up hours later and see that it’s true: My leg is gone."

DADT not only affected the lives of those who risked their lives on the battlefield. It also took a toll on those they loved.

"The relationship lasted for about four years, but I always felt like I was disrespecting him, to have to pretend he didn’t exist when I went to work. When I got deployed, he was there with my family when I left. It kind of sucked—to shake his hand and a little pat on the back and ‘I’ll see you when I see you’ kind of thing. And when you’re getting ready to come back, the spouses were getting classes—here’s how you welcome your Marine back into the family—and my boyfriend didn’t get any of that. I had a really hard time adjusting to being home. We tried to make it work for a year but he was getting more and more paranoid about people finding out about us. It killed me that he felt that way because of me. I don’t think we ever really had a chance, ultimately."

For some DADT became the weapon used by haters.

The harassment grew worse. Of a number of escalating events—Rocha was also force-fed dog food and locked into a shit-filled dog kennel—the most abusive and explicitly homophobic was when he was ordered by his commander to act in a dog-training scenario, repeated over and over so that every dog in the unit could be run through it. "The scenarios were supposed to be relevant to what the dogs or the handlers would experience. Like a domestic dispute, or an armed individual who has been spotted on the base, or someone strapped with explosives. This day he chose that the scenario would be that I would be getting caught giving another service member a blow job and, once the dogs came in, I was supposed to jump up from having been in between this guy’s legs. He would coach as to how exactly he wanted it played out, which was the sickest part of it." Rocha says he had to act this out between half a dozen and a dozen times, about fifteen to twenty minutes each time. As they repeated it, his commander ordered Rocha to make the scenario more extreme. "He wanted me to be very queer and flamboyant. He wanted me to pretend like there was stuff on my face. Loving it so much that each scenario was gayer and more disgusting—the introduction of fake semen, that I would have to wipe my face, or that I would have to make slurping noises. The level of humiliation I experienced that day, that’s when I knew I wasn’t safe in the military."

I highly recommend heading over there and reading more http://www.gq.com/news-politics/big-issues/201109/dont-ask-dont-tell-gay-soldiers-military#ixzz1WAXDJMrl

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Iowa Supreme Court

A look Inside the Iowa Supreme Court and the Same-Sex Marriage Debate.
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Key to Equality: Iowa?

It’s often been said that the social norms of the country are born on the coasts where states like Massacusettes and California tend to be more libral. But while the country has recently had it’s attention out west where California narowly voted in Prop 8, stripping away the right for same-sex couples to marry, the real battle, the key to finially turning the nation, could be right here in Iowa.

Today the Iowa Suppreme Court hears oral arguments in the case Varnum v. Brien, in which 6 Iowa same-sex couples are sueing to have their marriages recognized and be issued marriage lisences. It was in late August when, for a very brief window of time, that Iowa had leagalized same-sex marriage when Judge Robert Hanson struck down the Defense of Marriage law of the state. It was that ruling that prompted a state constitutional amendment that failed to pass in the 2008 state legislature.

So here is how it breaks down.

If the Iowa State Suppreme court rules against the ban this month or even early 2009 then same-sex marriage will once again be legal. But that doesn’t mean that our fight for equality will be over. Far from it.

That constitutional amendment will go up to the state legislature again in 2009. If it passes then it must wait until the next legislative session in 2011 and must pass there before it can go to the ballot in the next general election.

That means that Iowa will have about 3 years worth of legalized same-sex marriage before the constitutional amendment can be voted on. How do think a constitutional ban will fair in the eyes of the people after 3 years?

I believe that most Iowans have open minds and hearts. I believe that most of just want to treated just like everyone else and I believe that equality will prevail.

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